Everyone who reads this blog, will know by know what kind of girl I am. I tell things like it is, I’m not afraid of honesty and despite my sudonym of a wonderful woman I’m actually pretty normal. Sorry to disappoint you.
I hate being called a brave person, I’m not. I cry lots usually when I’m in pain, and if you’ve ever seen me in the cinema, you will know I’m not brave at all. I can’t watch Jurrasic Park without feeling sick.
And if people don’t usually call me brave I get labelled an inspiration, because some people think it’s a marvel that despite my disability, I have a smile on my face and a annoyingly positive outlook on life.
Believe it or not, I don’t want to be your inspiration and labelling me as such us actually more offensive than you realise.
There’s often never any reason for you calling me an inspiration, it always seems like a token gesture, like you’re scrabbling around to think of things to say, so you stick it on the end of a conversation to make yourself feel better and it leaves me feeling embarrassed because I’ve always wondered why people call me inspirational. What is the legitimate reason.
Instead of the sympathetic head tilt at the wide eyes as you label Mr inspiring
Could we not try validating why I’m such a eye opening force of nature
So instead of:
Ahhh Bless you, you are so brave! What an inspiration!!
Could we not try for example.
You are a very inspiring person because you have made me think about disability in a different way.
Re-phrasing the point, isn’t meant to boost egos, but it shows the Me that you’ve listened, and you don’t pity me and your not just calling me an inspiration to make yourself feel better.
I’m still very uncomfortable with the term disabled, I don’t wake up in the morning with an aim of inspiring anybody.
I just want to get on with life, there is so much more to me than my barriers, I’m someone’s Sister, someone’s friend, someone’s daughter and looking to be someone’s lover.. Just like you, I have plans, dreams and hopes just like you.
Whats the difference between you and I? When was the last time you were called inspirational just for living?
I’m curious to know why I’m an inspiration.. I’d accept it more if I’d had reason for the compliment.